Hey guys. I need some advice im a 25 Year old male from Zürich stranded in the Canton of Vaud So to explain how i got here in the first place would be probably good to know… : I’ve had a pretty Traumatic Experiences as a Kid (s*abuse) and I got Diagnosed with C-PTSD, ADHD(got this diagnose really early as a Kid with 7 or 8 years old) recurrent depressive disorder. Probably got more problrms but like most things listed those are probably symptoms of the PTSD and Adhd I had a Rough but not primearly bad childhood I mean I was Bullied especially in primary school Mainly because people got under my skin easy and could make me explode which they found funny obviously. My parrents divorced when i was like 5 or 6 years old and i lived with my mom most of the time I tried 2 times to make an apprenticeship as a Chef EFZ The first time the workplace wasnt ideal, and they put alot of unnecessary stress on their apprentices and at the start of the apprenticeship my mom went to a Reha Klinik in Gais Because my Brother was Really terrorizing me and her for the whole time he was living with us like Verbally Abusiv, Sometimes Physical, smashing things, Putting holes through doors. My mom was burnt out because of that and she was joggeling 6-7 cleaning Jobs to keep us afloat. I was 16 at the time my Brother had to live in a Container Appartement where they put peopel that cant finde appartements when they have Sozialhilfe sometimes. So i was alone at home and the whole situation and everything ive expierienced overwhelmed me. It got to the point where the stress made me pass out in work so the first apprenticship was Cancelled by the Boss from the place i worked. After that i was in the Clinic For Psychotherapy Stationary for about 3 months, where i learned some skills to regulate and function. After that they contacted the IV/AI since I had also a Geburtsgebrechen Schein I had the Right to a IV/AI massnahme/Intervention to try and to Do an Apprenticeship on the 2. Arbeits Markt Where i Tryd again to do an apprenticship as a Chef in a Really Great workspace with nice people and a really Good Boss. I Was able to do a Billingual(ENG/GER) Appranticeship EFZ as A Chef where i would have got a Secondary English Diploma And More Abillitiys to work abroad, I exelled and was Really Ethusiastic for the first 2.5 years, i was living right beside my workplace Because that institute also helped with learning to live in a Commune and everything was going really well untill i learnd that my had Lung cancer that was already spreading all in her body especially at the lymphknots. That threw me again in a severe depression and I went in the clinic once again this time a shorter stay.After that I Was Staying With my Godparents: my Uncle (the brother of my mother) And His Wife which i know since i was little.: For a While Because my mom wanted her space I suppose also traumatized somewhat and also just everything that happend between her and my brother there was not that energy left to help me because she was scared i would turn out the same as my brother. I searched for a Betreutes Wohnen, which i found and tried out we soon came to the conclusion that this would not be a Longtime solution since i really need to have my own space my own 4 walls or i need to have a say who can stay and live with me, who enters the house/appartment and who dosent, In communal living i learnd that im really scared when other ppl bring friends and others and sometimes were really loud and smashing doors the walls were also thin so you could here everything and the selection of ppl that were selected to live there when the direction changed was also something. But i couldnt live there anymore, to many people with to little rules in a little place that was really uncomfortable so I went and stayd with my Godparents again, that went Ok Untill i Broke my Uncels trust by smoking weed behind their back, even though it really does help me generally better then lets say sertralin or quetiapin for my case especially together with breath exercises And other things plus i drink maybe once or twice a month if even and when i say drink im talking about a Panache or maybe a Normal Beer or two But like thats it. So i had to search for a place to be until april 2024 i think. So the Sozialamt helped me with finding a hotel which was located in schaffhausen which i was staying until i met a person that i knew from the clinic again With wich i got along quiet well, we were plannig on living together and finding a place to stay. At one point they aked me if I wanted to live at the persons parents place Which i Obvioisly said yes the only catch they live in Vaud So at first everything was going fine but about 2 3 month in it was quiet clear that it wasnt working out for us to live together. So long story short after i finally got Aide Social They helped me again with finding a hotel since i already singed myself in when i moved here with my friend I also Got by then A IV/AI Rente of 60% So then after a while i got a Privater Betreuer from the Justice de paix. Then My Mom Died february 2025. Yeah. Like shit and now what Had some time to deal with it but obviously not enough. Searched for a another Betreutes wohnen Nobody tells me that its apperently not possible to get a Intercantonal Financing for it i went To visit one in Basel Landschaft and they told me they’ve got people from other cantons and it should be no pronblem then I was able to go there again and visit it and it was looking ok plus they had like supervised appartmemts that were rented out. Ok so they went and asked the canton for a Kostenübernahme and the canton denied the appel saying since i didnt try out the services they provide. The paln was in the frist place not to stay here because french gives me big trouble, i really struggle communicating in french especially with all the Burocracy Stuff that i Have to deal with i also Have like 0 friend like, I also suppose I have severe social anxyiety. i dont feel comofortable around people most of the time. And its really hard for me to get things done here. Since I got the AI/IV i get PC/EL And no longer any help from a Social Worker from the Aide Social now i got a SCTP person that does some administartive work and other things So since 2 years i have been living in a hotel now and Cant cook or really feel good, im not sure what to do or how to proceed Im not sure if Im able to find any Appartement but i really think that would help alot since not even the post adresse is working here/ dont recive any post And i just need my own space, As far as im concerned my Betreuer said that i have no Poursuits/Betreibungen in the register the ones from the Health insurance were payed Other than those there should be nothing and as far as im.concerned the betreuer did ask them to remove those completly, So with that i would have no Betreibungen, but i still have no idea how to proceed with the search and if i want to leave this canton i have to drive so far with the train and its also expensive af just for them to deny me in the worstcase. Whats the best way to proceed to find an appartememt “fast”(as fast as this process can be) Sorry for my english thanks for the advice submitted by /u/Both-Gas8422
Originally posted by u/Both-Gas8422 on r/Switzerland