I’m worried that it’s too late to turn my life around and could use some advice on how to move forward. For the past 10 years I’ve done nothing but spin my wheels with careers and relationships. I’ve done nothing with my degrees and have barely any savings. No real assets of my own. Been living with my dad for the last 3 years. For much of that time I’ve been dealing with severe anxiety and what I’ve just learned is undiagnosed ADHD but, even still, it’s hard not to feel like a failure when I compare myself to my peers. But now I’m 33 and something’s changed. I feel like I’ve only been functioning as like 75% of a human until now. But now that Im back online, so to speak, Im struggling figure out how to get my life back on track. I’m worried that life’s already left me behind. Ive thought about going back to school in a related field to my first set of degrees to kickstart a career pivot back from my current job, which seems to be a dead end to me. But the thought of taking on more student debt is daunting, needless to say. I have been making efforts to rebuild my offline social life as, previously, most of my free time was spent bedrotting, doomscrolling, occasionally playing video games, and D&D. But I’m finding that I’m having to completely relearn how to actually meet new people and develop new relationships. And some days I worry that I’m just too weird and awkward of a guy to ever have the friendships and romantic life that I want; no one wants to be around a guy that’s insecure and is constantly overthinking everything. Recently I took a trip and it was extremely expensive but it was the most fun that I’d had in the last decade, honestly. And now I’m back from it and I don’t know how I’m going to replicate that experience as often as I would like (or really, need to at this point) with my stagnant career and limited finances. I’ve got a lot of decisions ahead of me and my entire adult life I’ve spent either making the wrong decisions or postponing decisions and it’s landed me here. So I’m not sure how to overcome my aversion to risk to get myself moving forward. But I’m worried that I’m simply too psychologically and socially broken to ever really function as a normal person now. Has anyone here felt like this? If so, did you manage to overcome it or make peace with it? How? submitted by /u/mcfearless0214
Originally posted by u/mcfearless0214 on r/AskMen