I’m asking this genuinely because I think my last man really damaged my confidence around being vulnerable physically. I lost weight over the years, which I’m proud of, but my body isn’t perfect because of it. I have an apron belly, cellulite/loose skin on my thighs, sagging boobs, etc. Before my last partner, I honestly didn’t think much about these things. But he was very critical and picked apart my appearance in subtle and not-so-subtle ways, and now I feel terrified of being naked with someone new someday. Part of me feels like I should “warn” someone beforehand so they’re not disappointed. Another part of me thinks maybe that just draws more attention to it and that I should simply act confident and let things happen naturally. So I’m genuinely curious from a male perspective: Do most men actually care about these kinds of things in real life intimacy? Is it better when a woman owns her body confidently rather than apologizing for it? Would it feel strange if a woman disclosed insecurities like this beforehand? Have you ever been with someone who was insecure about their body, and what actually mattered to you emotionally/physically? I think I’m trying to relearn what’s normal after being with someone who made me hyperaware of every flaw. submitted by /u/idontknowyou156
Originally posted by u/idontknowyou156 on r/AskMen