I (33m) have always felt inferior to other men, sexually. That they last longer and do it better. If been pretty well convinced of this fact since I was in high school. Recently my (33f) fiancé of 4 years, started hanging out with an old friend (there are a few others, but idk know these people) she used to date who’s a decent bit older, which to me, makes it worse. That’s someone who almost certainly does everything better than me. Now I don’t think anything is actually happening but it puts all these negative thoughts in my head. So I text her these things, not intentionally but to be honest most of my messages sounded manipulative, like I don’t want her to see her friends at all. (Shes been very depressed and this is helping) So we are at a point now where she’s either been too tired or just totally unwilling to have sex. And it just reinforces my fears which I know are bullshit but I just can’t stop myself. I’m too old to feel this stupid. For context sake, we have child together, I work for Amazon and my fiancé lost her job a few months ago. I’m happy to answer questions and give context till I have to go to bed. Men of Reddit. Please suggest what I can do to try and feel better either about this situation or my insecurities in general as it’s hurting my relationship with myself and with my partner. I don’t think I can afford therapy, I haven’t had health insurance in 8 years, but open enrollment is soon so maybe I have hope. Also for context, I’m about* average size wise that not a hang up. It’s just the everything else. Sorry to spacing ext on mobile submitted by /u/LittleFortune4404
Originally posted by u/LittleFortune4404 on r/AskMen
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