I know this might come off wrong, but I’m F[30] pretty attractive, interesting and communicative. I’m recently single and i’ve went on a few dates and I have no issues attracting men I like… But I’ve also had 2 men recently shoot their shot with me who completely surprised me. I don’t want to sound shallow or mean- but they are both conventionally very unattractive, but even more importantly- have quite some personality issues + for their age, they are pretty behind in life. In some way, them even trying to ask me out has insulted me… and again, I know it sounds wrong. I’m overall friendly as a person, but i’m neither touchy feely or too friendly so not sure where they got the idea. Even then, don’t they realistically see themselves? And on the flipside- men who have qualities, are attractive… have aproached me only when given clear signals. Why is it that men who shouldn’t- seem to have excess confidence… and those who have reason to be confident, seem to be less so? submitted by /u/InternationalTart326
Originally posted by u/InternationalTart326 on r/AskMen
Higher quality men think and tend to weigh outcomes. Low quality men don’t.
If you find a high quality man whose single think about approaching him. He likely has weighed the outcome and think your existing relationship isn’t worth the risk.