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I am currently living abroad in Vietnam and I had been seeing this girl the past few weeks. It was meant to be a short term thing as I am leaving in June but it really didn’t feel like that. Literally after our first proper date we got on really well and we would see each multiple times throughout the week , she would even spend hours at mine just doing her own work and we were so intimate with each other even to the point of just holding hands and laying together . Even more so she actually seemed to like me for me and wanted me to be myself and open up to her to which I did and she appreciated it and I felt comfortable around her and soon got really used to seeing her all the time, even after work she would come over. We would also be messaging throughout the day. In my experience there aren’t many women I dated who I felt were so into me on such a level that they would always want to be around me and make me feel good. What’s more is that I did ask her the other week on how she actually felt about me leaving and this would be short term or what would she think of the prospect of me coming back and she later said she is happy this is short term and doesn’t want to do anything long term and we agreed to just keep doing this until I leave which she was happy about. But yeah as I said before we were so intimate and close all of a sudden that it felt like we were already in an established relationship. She would even look out for me while I’m sleeping sending messages like hope you’re having a good sleep and would buy me things. At this stage in my life I really did want someone like her who just wanted to see me and she gave me so much affection and care and made me feel stable. Last week Saturday, I invited her out to a sort of work party at a bar as a lot of people that I work with were there, and she wasn’t too happy with me I think cause she thought I was flirting or too friendly with other women and they were doing the same but overall we had a great time we even danced together and had some great moments even though when we got back she did say I annoyed her but she wasn’t too serious and I reassured her and we were fine she was even laughing later and the next morning everything was great. That Sunday afternoon is when I noticed a vibe that she was not talking much and being a little distant but I just thought she was tired and she said she felt a little sick from drinking last night which is fair. She also does have a social battery and I assumed it was drained and she just wanted to go home and chill. So I said bye and as usual she would let me know when she gets home but then she was still distant and didn’t seem like she wanted to text so I just said good night but I had no idea what I would wake up to. At around 12:30am last Monday I woke up and wanted to check the time on my phone as I usually wake up really early but I had to go to work so I wake up at 5am. When I checked my phone I saw her last message to me: “This isn’t working for me. I don’t want to do this anymore. I wish you the best though. Have a safe flight and hope you can enjoy your last weeks here” And she blocked me. I didn’t sleep at all that day. This was so shocking and sudden for me I didn’t expect this from her given just how much affection and care she had for me and I had for her and how much she just wanted to be around me, she even admitted going 3 days without seeing me would be tough. It has been a week and I still haven’t heard anything from her. I can only think of two reasons why she did this:

1. she realized by that point she had her fun with me and had enough and couldn’t bare another two weeks Or
2. She realized that she can’t actually do short term and the longer she spends with me the harder it would be for her to have to let me go so she wanted to the one to end it on her own terms. The way she ended it though was so brutal and sudden even more so that she blocked me and I have no way seeing her or reaching her it actually feels like she passed away given how abrupt it all was just last week we were having such a good time to this where she is just gone all of a sudden. This seriously impacted me a lot, and I do tend to struggle mentally so this has triggered severe anxiety and depression. I know this was going to be short term and even if I see it from her perspective it it still such a cruel thing to do to me and I did not expect that from her who was so loving and caring towards me. These next couple weeks we had plans together and she wanted to keep seeing me as much as possible until I go this was all so sudden and brutal. Like she honestly gave me so much just for it vanish one morning. submitted by /u/Vader60

Originally posted by u/Vader60 on r/AskMen