I often see “whoever asks pays” framed as a fair, gender-neutral dating rule, but I’m not sure it works that way in practice. It seems fair in theory if men and women are initiating dates at roughly the same rate but in a lot of dating situations, men are still expected to approach, ask someone out, plan the date, and take the initial risk of rejection so when people say “whoever asks pays,” do you see that as genuinely fair etiquette, or does it mostly just recreate the old expectation that men should pay, but with more modern wording? To be clear I’m not saying men should never pay or that paying is always a problem. I’m more asking whether you think the rule is actually neutral in practice… submitted by /u/Successful-Ear977
Originally posted by u/Successful-Ear977 on r/AskMen