I’m sure not guys do this but I’m pretty sure every one I’ve slept with has taken any comments I’ve made personally. Like the sex can be great and I love having sex with him but I can make any kind of comment suggesting changes and it’s like they always take it as an insult to them. Like you can be sore from previous interaction and they’ll take it as you calling them too rough. If you have uncommon anatomy that makes certain positions uncomfortable and try to tell them that it feels better a certain way they take it as you’re saying they don’t know what they’re doing. If they’re just rubbing you too hard or in the wrong spot and you try to tell them where to go or how hard to do it they once again act like you’re saying they have no idea what they’re doing and get offended. So many times have I just sat there not enjoying it because I know if I suggest he do anything differently he will get his feelings hurt and ignore my suggestion or stop completely and be like fine I just won’t touch you at all. It’s so frustrating. I also don’t understand why dudes are so intimidated by the vibrator. They treat it like they’re jealous of it and it’s like competing with them. They want to prove they can get you off so bad without it but most of the time they can’t or at least they aren’t willing to do what it takes to get you there. And then if they do get you there they randomly stop right as you’re about to go. Yet if you want to streamline things and involve the vibrator to make sure you both get off and not have to sit there for an hour doing the same motions then he pouts and acts like you’re the bad guy for wanting to use it and like the vibe is the reason he doesn’t usually get you off. Which isn’t true at all. I want to use the vibe because you won’t do what it takes to get me off nor will you listen to the advice I give you. Please just help me understand why it’s such an insult to yall to be asked or shown what we like? And when you don’t listen why are you upset when we want to use the vibe to hurry up and get off before you do and you tap out. submitted by /u/nefariousdeedsafoot
Originally posted by u/nefariousdeedsafoot on r/AskMen