41 years here. Relationship ending after 10 years. Not heartbroken or anything, not much animosity, just lost our closeness and resigned to it because it needed to be done. I’m wondering what dating and being single again was like for you in your 40s? And just any thoughts or lessons learned. The cause of our breakup had to do with our lifestyles over time changing a lot. My 20s and 30s involved a fair amount of partying/going out. Over the years I slowly shifted from that to a much more active and slightly “boring” lifestyle. Hers remained the remained the same, not in an unhealthy way we just weren’t aligned. I drink less, never during the week, am very health conscious. I play tennis, bike, and go to the gym 4-5x a week. I am in the best shape of my life (12% body fat and great physique). My job is stable and well-paying and have no kids and never been married. I do sometimes meet up with friends to have a few drinks at the bar to watch whatever sports event is on or hop around town. I enjoy a brewery or cocktail, and while I enjoy it every once in a while it’s not something I do all weekend as it sort of derails me for a couple days. So part of me wonders where I will find connections as I enjoy companionship and a healthy sex life. I value some independence but also like efforts to meet eachother and compromise on interests. I guess I’m just looking for some solidarity and things you noticed in your 40s and what worked for you. I don’t want to turn into a completely independent stoic loner. I live in a mid-sized east coast city so not the worst place to be single again. submitted by /u/absolut696
Originally posted by u/absolut696 on r/AskMen
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