I feel like this question gets asked a lot, but I feel like men tend to avoid forming new platonic relationships. My wife made a couple of friends at work and introduced me to their partners. Long story short, we hit it off but no one makes an effort to hang outside of when our partners want to. Whenever we get together we discuss the stuff we’re into and there’s a lot of overlap… if I propose a plan it’s crickets. When my partner is talking to her friends their partners will chime in and ask “oh how’s [my name] doing?” And we’ll literally be doing the same thing just, you know, separately. I’ve made efforts to join clubs based on things I’m interested in and most people tend to have their own cliques already. I try to show up to the same places I enjoy like coffee shops, gym, yoga studio, skateparks, retro gaming stores, etc. and eventually start introducing myself to other regulars and I’ve honestly had more luck just doing that, no deep bonds yet but it’s whatever. I work from home too so it’s not like I’m forming any bonds there either. Why is it like this? My pops and even my older brother have been able to make so many friends over the course of their years and I feel like I’m struggling. I remember being able to go stay by the neighbors for a little while because my parents’ shifts were dragging. I remember staying out late because my parents were drinking and playing cards or dominoes with their friends. I remember having ‘cousins’ that were just family friends. I’m afraid I won’t be able to give my kids that same life or sense of community. Enough complaining, are there any solutions to this? Is this just a me thing? I like my peace too and I’m not trying to force anything but damn man it feels like some weeks all I really got is my wife and my family. submitted by /u/Chef_Thomas
Originally posted by u/Chef_Thomas on r/AskMen
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