My dad is now in his mid-50s. Growing up he had many friends, and overall just had a great social life. He was voted in as valedictorian for his high school (I’m not sure how it works in the USA but in Canada it’s essentially a popularity contest). In university he also had a group of 10 (if not more) friends and was out partying and socializing at least twice a week. Anyways by his mid-20s he still kept in touch with like 7-8 people from high school/university. He got married to my mom in his mid-20s, and according to my mom their apartment was still a “revolving door” where his friends would come in and hang out, watch TV, party, etc. at least once a week. It’s accurate to say that the last time my dad properly socialized with his friends was when he was 30 (when my parents had my older brother). Since then, my dad has only seen his friends like once a year, if not once every two or three years. I’m 19 now, and growing up it seemed like my dad genuinely had zero friends. On the evenings and weekends he was always just hanging out with my mom or me or my brother. That’s it. My dad’s never gone on a “guys only trip” or even gone to a sports game or whatever with any of them. Obviously I know between work and parenting he would’ve been tired, but I know several other people his age who still have active social lives. My dad still keeps in touch with those 7-8 people via texting, but that’s about it. He only meets them like once every two or three years as I said. And it’s not like all of them moved far away; most of them still reside in nearby suburbs that are like less than an hours drive. But honestly, it shocks me that the same dad who I thought (and still think) is very antisocial, was the direct opposite some 30 years ago. So I really don’t know what happened. submitted by /u/Five_Minute_Bacon
Originally posted by u/Five_Minute_Bacon on r/AskMen