In my late 40’s I was massively in debt, bordering on bankruptcy. I had various civil legal issues related to personal guarantees I had made while part owner of a failed business. I’d sold my home, I was drinking heavily, I was single and working at an entry level job with people that were up to 30 years younger than me. In the last 5 years a business that I did some work for in return for a small percentage ownership. That business has been a massive success and my financial situation has been transformed. The initial payout I recieved has had a sort of cascading effect. My legal issues were solved disturbingly fast. I own the home I always wanted, I secured a well paid position at another company (which I’ll admit was done with the help of the majority owners of the company that I sold my interest in). I’m in a relationship with a woman (which has it’s own difficulties) my first in 12 years. I spend my 20’s and early 30’s in the army. After that I spent 11 years of my life and all my savings on a failing business. Now I’m in my 50’s, I’m childless(which I feel regret about, but I think it should remain that way). I’m in a complicated relationship with a woman who if nothing else fufills all my sexual needs. I’m financial stable enough that if I quit my current job, I could live quite comfortably. I still feel like I’ve wasted the best years of my life. Seperate from that though is this deep constant sense of unease. I’m in a stable position yet I don’t feel stable. I know other men have been in the same situation as me. My mid life crisis hit 10 years ago, while I was living in a shared house with drug addicts and ex prisoners. This is something else. So my question is seperate from my specific situation how should men deal with getting a final opportunity in life? submitted by /u/Shannon_Vary
Originally posted by u/Shannon_Vary on r/AskMen