I’ve been dating my boyfriend (28M) for almost a year. He’s a genuinely kind person and I care about him a lot, but there’s one issue that’s becoming increasingly difficult for me. He tends to assume that if my mood, tone, expression, or behavior changes even slightly, it must mean something is wrong. If I get quiet for a few minutes, zone out, or start daydreaming, he’ll often ask multiple times what’s bothering me, what I’m thinking about, or whether something is wrong between us. The problem is that most of the time nothing is wrong. I’ve always been someone who gets lost in thought. Sometimes I’m thinking about work, a random memory, something I saw online, or honestly nothing important at all. Even after I tell him everything is fine, he often remains convinced that there’s something I’m not saying. Occasionally he’ll become distant himself because he believes I’m holding something back. I’ve tried reassuring him consistently and being open about my thoughts and feelings, but it doesn’t seem to make much difference. His explanation is that this is simply how he processes things. Lately I’ve started feeling like I need to monitor my expressions and behavior so they won’t be misinterpreted, and that’s becoming exhausting. For people who have experienced something similar, either as the overthinker or the partner of one, what helped? How do you create trust when one person is constantly looking for hidden meanings that may not actually be there? submitted by /u/ThisAcanthisitta1365
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