Background: (45f) I haven’t been in many long term relationships and in the past have chosen love bombers over solid connections. In part, this might have to do with my neurodivergence and RSD causing me to take things at face value instead of realizing emotions and actions can be nuanced. I’ve recently started dating someone who seems like he wants a solid connection. He is chivalrous. Opening doors, insisting on paying, etc… It doesn’t feel like a control thing. He’s just a nice guy. (Only saying this because of my history of choosing love bombers.) Chivalry makes me uncomfortable because I’ve been alone and independent for so long plus the social cues things. Im coming around to it because I like the guy and this is his nature, but I worry I’m not reciprocating properly because it’s not my nature or I’m inexperienced (yes, even at 45). I worry this makes me look selfish or sends off the wrong signals. Question and TDLR: How can women reciprocate chivalry? What would be a green flag for you? submitted by /u/Unlikely-Bumblebee14
Originally posted by u/Unlikely-Bumblebee14 on r/AskMen
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