Hey guys, looking for some perspective from men who have been through the wringer and successfully won their girl back. Me and my girl recently split up. There was no cheating, no toxicity, and no major blowout fights. The reality is, I let complacency slip in. Dropped my standards with basic effort, and the final straw was that I genuinely had a mental episode and forgot some deeply important, sensitive dates regarding her family. Which made her feel like I always forget about things to do with her. She asked for a break out of hurt. At first, I took her words literally and gave her space (didn’t fly out to see her when I could have), which she took as me not fighting for her. I’ve had a massive wake-up call. I’ve spoken to mutual friends who confirmed she just wants to see me actively fight for the relationship and prove my consistency. Today, I took decisive action: I sent her flowers, matched her playful energy on text (she told me my determination was ‘kinda hot’ but that I have to ‘suffer a bit’ first), and I just booked a flight to go see her face-to-face this Wednesday to take her to dinner and lead the situation. I have a month-long plan mapped out to consistently show up for her before she goes on a big holiday in July. For the guys who successfully healed a relationship that broke down due to complacency and hurt—how did you manage your anxiety during the process? What did you learn about consistent pursuit? Any success stories would really help me hold my nerve right now submitted by /u/Pale-Ad-8048
Originally posted by u/Pale-Ad-8048 on r/AskMen