First post: https://www.reddit.com/r/AskMen/comments/1twv1bj/she_sat_right_beside_me_and_i_m27_could_not_speak/ You all helped me a lot last time in me getting myself out of my own head. So for that, thank you. I’m making this post as a happy update. TLDR; she sat beside me like before, I initiated a conversation, talked for almost an hour, had a fun time, say goodbye without even asking her name or contact. And now details on what I did: Same as last time, after workout, she came and sat by the couch. I was already sitting there. This time, I had 0% of my previous anxiety. That day, sleepless at night, I invented a technique. I used it calm myself, and initiated the conversation, commenting on the impressive weights she pulled (which I saw before because I used the machine right after her). We sat and chatted for half an hour - usual gym stuff, diet, biology. I pivoted to asking about her - I learned her motivation, brief history of her life. Shared mine. I was sitting on my side, facing her. After a while she turned and sat on her side too, facing me. Her body language was open, she smiled, so did I, it was natural. Then it got late (this was night), so we left. Turns out she’s walking the same direction. We talked another 20 mins while walking. She was smiling more too. It was a fun conversation. In the end, she said “Alright see you tomorrow”, to which I said that unlike my usual routine, tomorrow I’m not coming, and will come Thursday. (does she know my routine? idk, and idc). I did a fist-bump, she did a thumbs-up, it was awkward and funny, she laughed. I consider this a great victory. I did not even feel like asking her contact or something. I forgot to even ask her name, and she does not know mine either. This is the first crush I’ve actually initiated a conversation with. In my eyes, I succeeded. I don’t care anymore if anything comes out of it. At worst, I have a new gym friend. It’s win-win. I’m open if you have any remarks or anything. P.S: She thinks I’m older than her. I’m aware of my poise, it’s something I naturally have. I have not told her yet about my age, so she does not know I’m actually 3 years younger. submitted by /u/mike_oxmaul_68
Originally posted by u/mike_oxmaul_68 on r/AskMen