26M, I’ve never had a GF even after trying to find someone. Grew up as a shy kid and didn’t talk much to anyone. I never had a lot of friends, just a few throughout the life. In my 20s, I started changing myself and tried to learn to communicate better and not be socially awkward. I changed myself enough that some people considered me funny (only close friends tho) and some people found me to be good at talking. However, I still feel nervous to talk to women and no women show me interest. I’m Smart, funny and creative but only when I’m with close friends. I’m good at professional communication at work or when ordering food somewhere but I can’t get frank with random people quickly. Most of my friends or people around me are dating and I’m the only one who’s always been single. Some friends talk about how they meet new girls every week and I can’t seem to relate. I don’t want too many, I just want 1. Someone I can love and have them love me back but I almost feel like no one will ever love me. No girl has ever complimented me and I think I’m probably not conventionally attractive. No girl has every approached. Only my mom think I’m attractive (when I tell that I can’t find girl 'cause I’m not tall and handsome). Most of my life I focused on studies and wanted a good career and didn’t work on finding a partner and now in mid 20s, my career has still not started and I’m also the only single guy wherever I go. Most people around me enjoyed the life, had fun in school, have GFs and now also have decent career. I feel so unlucky and have suicial thoughts sometimes and most days my normal mood is actually sad and I can’t seem to find any reasons to be happy. My career isn’t starting (finding a job in my field) and no girl seems to be interested in me. Currently, I have no social life, barely any close friends (just some acquaintances). I usually try to find women around me at school or work but so far I’ve only been rejected or friendzoned. I don’t have any women at my current work and basically no female interaction for months. I have tried bunch of dating apps just to be disappointed. I never get any likes, matches. Women just ignore me. I wanted to have certain set of values listed that I wanted in a partner but at this point, I don’t think I have a choice. I’d be happy to meet anyone who is alive. I don’t play games and I don’t fake it to impress anyone. I try to be real and find someone with intention to have a long term relationship. I don’t know what women want. I can’t be a bad boy even if I act like one. Why is there no demand of nice guys? I feel like I’m gonna die alone. Some friends say I’m kinda negative even tho I just try to be realistic. Do I need a therapy? submitted by /u/ybicurious
Originally posted by u/ybicurious on r/AskMen
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