My ex and I broke up mutually, partially because I definitely want kids and he is pretty sure he doesn’t. (Also because he has some anger issues and was pretty low-effort and had an attitude too often). He’s an only child and doesn’t know the beauty of a big chaotic family. He always cited financial concerns for a main reason not to have kids. Also he’s been depressed his whole life and he thinks the world is a terrible place to being children to. Also he can’t handle sleep deprivation. But regarding the financial reasons—He’s been out of law school two years now, going on his 2nd year of making six figures. We’re still talking & sometimes I spend a whole day + night at his place. Been broken up 2 months but neither of us want to move on. He misses me. He tells me about how hard is it to not text me goodnight. Etc. He tells me 1) he misses being in a relationship AND that 2) he’s not interested in having a girlfriend at all now— he’s enjoying not having any relationship obligations. I’M enjoying the possibility of finding someone who wants to be a dad and a more involved partner. He didn’t like that I downloaded dating apps, but we’re both clear that we are free to move on. I’m likely to move on before he does, but I don’t want to miss out on a potential future with him. I really love him. So I’m wondering, will he probably grow up more and decide he wants a family + more involvement in family life? Is he likely to have a change of heart given he’s turning 30, making progress in career, and the fact that he doesn’t want to move on from me? submitted by /u/True-Shape7744
Originally posted by u/True-Shape7744 on r/AskMen