I see this from both women and men. The worst type is probably when discussing rape: “what did she expect”, where some people act like it’s just a thing we do as soon as there’s a good opportunity so women shouldn’t ever be alone or inebriated around us and shouldn’t leave us unsupervised around kids It also comes up in the trans bathroom debate - trans women must be sexual predators because they used to be men. The milder and most common form seems to be when people talk about relationships and they basically say that having any expectations of us at all is too much. Basic household tasks like using a vacuum cleaner or making a meal, looking after our own kids, being able to tell if things are clean or not, or even understanding words are apparently too much for the male brain. Unfortunately this is a big one for my mother - my brother in law is a shit partner and a shit dad but he’s likeable and so my mother defends him for everything, even when he’s endangered the children. “Men are just like that”, “he could be worse”, “you need to train him better”. My cousin also divorced her partner recently for very legit reasons and though she admits his behaviour both before and after the divorce was bad, she still thinks my cousin is making a mistake and should give him another chance. My dad was also not the best partner or dad (though not as bad as BIL) so I suspect part if it is that if she admits that some of this stuff is bad, she’ll also have to confront that fact. I’ve pointed out that she had these supposedly impossible expectations for me growing up and that as an adult and husband I seem to manage to do all these things just fine but it’s starting to get a bit repetitive. I also told her “he’s not a dog” re: the training comment. Bonus mention for “men are simple, the only thing a woman has to do is keep his stomach full and his balls empty”. submitted by /u/cottonthread
Originally posted by u/cottonthread on r/AskMen