35F. No kids, no desire for kids (not to be confused with I don’t like children, because I do), no secret plan to change my mind, and not even a pet (love animals, work two jobs) to spring on a future date. Reading dating discussions lately, I’ve seen a lot of men say they’re specifically child-free/have no desire for kids when reentering the dating world, while also being frustrated that they’re mostly matching with single mothers. According to the internet, women such as myself are either: Some form of cryptid, Emotionally unavailable, Career obsessed, Secretly lying about not wanting kids, A walking red flag, Destined to die alone, with cats? (Again, love animals; it would be irresponsible pet ownership with the hours that it work; I do however, have a healthy amount of plants) For what it’s worth, I’ve done the blended-family thing before and learned that it’s not the life I want for myself. It’s difficult to build a relationship, fill a vital role and then things not pan out. Adult children who are grown and living their own lives wouldn’t bother me, however, I’m not looking to become a parent or step-parent at this stage of my life. I’d like to know which one AskMen thinks is true. What are the other perceptions? For men dating in their late 20’s, 30s and 40s: how do you view women who don’t have children and don’t want children? Is it genuinely a positive, a negative, or simply another compatibility factor? submitted by /u/nizzelkitkat
Originally posted by u/nizzelkitkat on r/AskMen