TLDR: Met girl #1 in February, solid connection, deep compatibility, but soft flame. Met girl #2 abroad in May, intense passion and physical attraction, but only a few weeks in. Girl #1 gave me an ultimatum this weekend. I want something lasting, but I’m scared of choosing wrong. How do you pick between comfort/compatibility and passion/unknown? I met the first girl in February. We spent a couple of nights together and kept seeing each other casually. We get along really well, have a lot in common, and can truly be ourselves around each other. We agreed to keep things light until I got back from a trip abroad in May. During that trip, I met a second girl. We had two intense days together in a beautiful setting, and kept seeing each other after I returned. Both women live near me, and both know about each other. With the second girl, I feel passion and strong physical attraction. With the first, it’s more like a deep friendship — I find her charming, I can be myself around her, and the connection feels real. The flame is softer though, and I’m less sure I’d be romantic with her. I want to build something serious and lasting. The first has given me an ultimatum — exclusivity or she walks — and I have until this weekend. The second is uncomfortable with the situation but giving me more time. The problem is I don’t have enough perspective on the second — a few weeks, a dream setting, the excitement of something new. I’ve never seen her on an ordinary Tuesday evening. I don’t know who she is when life is mundane. But with the first, the flame is soft. With the second, we just look so good together. What would you do? submitted by /u/ToJumpPressX
Originally posted by u/ToJumpPressX on r/AskMen
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