She sat right beside me, and I (M27) could not speak up. What’s wrong with me? (FINAL UPDATE) Previous post: https://www.reddit.com/r/AskMen/comments/1u0g7bt/she_sat_right_beside_me_and_i_m27_could_not_speak/ TLDR; Approached her in gym, asked if it’s her last set, waited 10 mins extra than usual outside for her, on my way to leave I ask if she wants a lift in my cab, ask if she’s free on Sunday, she says she has events planned from Friday to Sunday, I let it go, she thanks for the ride. I approached her in gym after my workout. Made a joke about how it takes so long to set up some things (she said this to me last time). Ask her how long she has. She said she’s almost done. I sit outside for 10 mins for than usual. She comes, asks me, “You did not go yet?”, but the tone was smiling. I told her I was leaving, my cab was there, and I could drop her if needed. She agreed. While waiting for the cab outside, we had small talk - gym, workout, tattoos. I ask her name. I misheard it, sounded like something else, a pun. So I made a joke. She laughed, told me to never call her that. She did not ask my name. Cab comes. We get in. I ask her what’s she doing on Sunday. She says she’s got events planned on Friday, Saturday and Sunday. On Sunday she’s gonna have to come straight from a party to the gym. I wanted to ask her out, but when she said this, something inside me died. I view this as rejection, but I was amicable and non-chalant. I did not speak much out of tiredness and this rejection. Same reason why I did not ask her number. I drop her, she smiles at me, says Thank you. I bid her goodnight, and go on my way. Next time in gym, I plan not to approach her anymore. If paths cross, ofc I’ll be polite. But I’m no longer waiting around. At the same time, I’m glad nothing is awkward. I know other guys would have pushed for next week, or played it better. When she mentioned her plans, I saw myself as an alien. I spent all my years building my career, surviving traumas, so I never learned how to be normal. Never been to any parties. She’s of a different type and it would not have worked out. Where would I have taken her out anyways? I don’t go out, I got no clue. Other guys have something that I don’t, and I feel like an alien among people. I struggle to feel intimacy in any relationship, so I get no motivation to pursue anything. I’ve gotta research and find out what it is. Anyways, that’s it for the update. submitted by /u/mike_oxmaul_68
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