Hi guys. It’s taken me a lot of courage to ask this question, so please bare with me. For those who may have or are currently abandoning their children, is there a psychological reason for it? A small background story: I’m (28f) my father’s (52m) oldest daughter of three. He has three daughters (including myself) all of us are now in our 20s. He’s been in my life on and off since I was young but I remember him being more active in my life than not. When my two younger sisters were born, he wasn’t nearly as active in their lives as he was in mine. My sisters and I have gotten closer since we’ve gotten older. My two younger sisters have the same mom and I have my own mom. My dad was married to my younger sister’s mother until the second oldest was about 2 years old. He hasn’t seen or spoken to my two younger sisters in about 15 years. Over the last 10 years I’ve asked my dad to be more active in my life. A simple text every now and again or maybe a call a few times a month, nothing too demanding I thought. He started to improve and call me at least twice a week and we’d have 2-hour phone calls and text each other all the time, it was the best! About three years ago, we fell off after I suggested that he be more active in my two younger sister’s lives. He would ask me about them but he didn’t take the time to reach out to them on social media or ask for their numbers. ( I didn’t think I should have been the one to update him on their lives when he could have just asked the girls himself). He told me it would take time for him to reach out them and form a connection… okay—whatever. My sisters and I have tried to form a connection but to no avail. We tried for two years to be consistent in communicating with him just for us to left to the sidelines. The girls haven’t spoken to him since late 2024, but he called me this past Christmas to wish me a merry Christmas. I asked him, “Did you wish the girls a merry Christmas?” He said, “I thought they blocked me.” To my response being “Did you even try…?” He said “No, but I will.” He never reached out. I’m genuinely wondering, is there a reason why fathers decide to stop being active in their children’s lives even when their children are asking to be in their lives submitted by /u/abc_deatrix
Originally posted by u/abc_deatrix on r/AskMen
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