When people talk about bullies, they always make them sound like cowardly idiots who fold the second you stand up to them. This isn’t always true. And the truth is, when you try to confront or intimidate a bully, you’re confronting someone who’s based their entire life around these situations and often has more experience. Bullies in the 8th grade might fold just because you caught them off guard and stood up to them, but if someone is still a bully in their 20s and beyond, they didn’t make it that far because they folded every time someone pushed back. Also, some bullies are crazy and will go further than you will because you actually have something to lose. The reality is, you have to accept that there are situations where the bully gets the better of you. This isn’t the movies where the good guy always wins. And while I hate to admit it, it bothers me sometimes. Some people are exceptional in terms of being intimidating, etc., and no one really messes with them. But I’d guess that a majority of men have to deal with this situation sometimes. How do you deal with this? I’d say most men memoryhole it or rationalize it somehow. submitted by /u/tantamle
Originally posted by u/tantamle on r/AskMen