I’m 21 and I genuinely have no idea how my life will pan out because of my lack of a male role model growing up. First of all, yeah I know variations of this question have been asked on this sub, but I’m asking so I could get some advice that’s tailored for my specific situation maybe. First decade of my life, dad wasn’t there. Just mom. And she villainized him the whole time. He came back but I only see him like once a year and we’re not even that close. He doesn’t put that much effort into me at this point but he claims to love me. Now I’m 21 and I literally can’t do anything…I can’t stand up for myself, I can’t even walk up to a girl I’m into, I can’t drive, don’t know shit about cars or fixing things or that other masculine stuff, I let people walk all over me and I don’t even know if I’ll be able to hold down a job after college because I’m so incompetent. Is this common? And is there a way to fix it? I don’t know what healthy masculinity looks like and I’m scared that I never will. submitted by /u/Significant-Opus2882
Originally posted by u/Significant-Opus2882 on r/AskMen