Hi everyone, I’m 23F and recently had something end with a 22M that I’m still trying to understand. We met unexpectedly, connected quickly, and for about a month things felt really good. We both expressed wanting to see where things could go and there weren’t any major issues between us. A few weeks in, he started feeling unsure. Initially he mentioned things like distance and being busy with academics, but eventually told me the main reason was his family situation. He explained that his family, especially his mother, has been very involved in his dating life in the past. According to him, they’ve caused problems in previous relationships, been critical of the girls he’s dated, and the whole situation has made him anxious about dating. After taking some time to think about it, he ended things, saying he wasn’t sure how to handle his situation and that I didn’t deserve to get caught up in it. I haven’t experienced a family dynamic like that myself, so I’m curious: Have you ever ended something with someone you genuinely liked because of family pressure or family issues? Were your feelings for them still real when you ended it? Looking back, do you think it was the right decision? What do you wish the other person understood about your situation? I’m not looking for anyone to tell me whether he was right or wrong. I’m just trying to understand perspectives different from my own. Thanks. 🤍 Edit: his family didn’t know about me, hence they didn’t have a say in his decision however despite them not knowing weather he is dating someone or not, according to him they are still constantly in his ear about dating, I think saying how he shouldn’t or just being negative about it. I really don’t get why they do that to him. Edit2: I’m starting to think another possibility might be he simply didn’t like me enough to try and make it work for us despite the possible hardships it might bring for both, some do say if you like someone enough you can move mountains for them submitted by /u/Maine-Ming
Originally posted by u/Maine-Ming on r/AskMen