Hey everyone, I’ve been dealing with a sexless relationship for quite some time, and I think it’s finally starting to take a serious toll on me mentally and emotionally. My wife and I have been together for 8 years. During the first six months of our relationship, intimacy was never an issue. After that, things gradually changed. She became much more distant, and over time I found myself constantly hearing promises that things would improve, but they never really did. As her responsibilities at work increased, I tried to do my part by helping more around the house and taking as much stress off her as possible. Even after working long days myself, I would come home and continue helping wherever I could. Unfortunately, none of that seemed to make a difference in our intimacy. It got to the point where I felt like I couldn’t even show affection without it being unwelcome. What makes it even more confusing is that she still wants to spend time together, talk, and do normal couple activities, but when it comes to physical intimacy, there always seems to be a barrier. Recently, we moved into a new house, and I’ve been doing everything I can to help—painting, moving furniture, handling projects, and supporting our family. Yet nothing has changed. Her explanation is that she wants me to “chase” her more and build anticipation throughout the day. But after years of feeling rejected and disappointed, it’s difficult to constantly pursue someone when there’s no guarantee of any connection at the end of it. The truth is, this situation has left me feeling angry, depressed, frustrated, and emotionally exhausted. I’ve started neglecting myself because of how defeated I feel. The main reason I’ve stayed and continued trying is because of my beautiful daughter. I never imagined a relationship could leave me feeling this lonely while still being with someone. Sometimes we go three months or longer without any intimacy, and it’s become increasingly difficult to cope with. I’m sharing this because I know I can’t be the only person who has experienced something like this. If anyone has gone through a similar situation and found a way to work through it, I’d appreciate hearing your perspective. submitted by /u/Low-Stand-3702
Originally posted by u/Low-Stand-3702 on r/AskMen
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