I am a decent looking guy, and a great texter, which results in hundreds of matches on dating apps, and most of the time I can get them to show up. However the date always ends up with me being friendzoned or the date ends without them answering a single text afterwards; complete ghost. I’ve dated 2-3 people in my life and have noticed previous patterns of me being codependent, people pleasing, and having a savior complex; completely putting others needs before my own. The only people that have mostly been interested in me have been energy vampires/very toxic manipulative people (narcissist types) who take advantage of my naivety and caretaker nature. I know women in general are very perceptive and its almost like the healthy women that I want can sniff out something that I’m not seeing (as someone with Asperger’s), and then conversely the toxic ppl sniff me out and are drawn in. I’ve asked for feedback after dates and they usually repeat the same phrase of “you’re a nice guy, but I’m not looking to date, not looking for something serious, etc” (which are obvious cop-outs because why are you out with me?) Anyways, as a guy with aspergers is there any true way out of this trap where I can attract healthy women and live a good life with a healthy woman? that’s all I want. submitted by /u/Clubpenguin8888
Originally posted by u/Clubpenguin8888 on r/AskMen