Saw a post where a girl took a pic of an older man sitting on the bus where it seemed like his phone camera could have been pointed at her, as if he was taking pics of her. Comments accusing him of being a perv, few are giving him the benefit of the doubt that he’s probably just holding it in a weird way. Both scenarios are possible. It made me think back to when I was in high school, we were in a large crowd, headed to the auditorium for an assembly, there was some random girl next to me, and one of her girl friend snuck up behind her and poked her then ran away. The girl looked around and thought it was me, so she just looked at me and said “stop”. I was young and very socially anxious, I understood the implications, she essentially thought I was a perv, so I froze, it was also a large loud crowd so I thought I could just pretend not to notice. Her girl friend did it again, and so she turned to me again and said “stoooop” louder. The third time the girl friend did it, she stayed and told the girl it was her. The girl then turns to me and softly says “sorry”, I still pretend not to notice. I think in most situations in public, especially as an adult, if you’re accused of being a perv publicly, you won’t be saved, and more people are likely to believe the woman who accuses you. So I never understood whats the best response, or if there is any. Should I maybe act even more offended that I’m being accused, as if she’s too beneath me to be perved on? Sure I’ll look like an egotistical ass, but maybe thats better than being seen as a perv? IDK submitted by /u/DiligentRope
Originally posted by u/DiligentRope on r/AskMen