Note: I’m not asking dating advice, I’m asking how men experience personal hygiene and taking care of themselves!!! Context (not necessary to read): Sadly my relationship came to an end recently because of communication issues. Long story short I failed to communicate about my needs of better hygiene and it lead to a rejection and then a break up. I always had a war in my head if these where healthy boundaries I should communicate about or if I was asking him to change in order for me to be in a serious relationship with him. There were issues with lack of personal hygiene, nose picking (wiping it to his clothes and furniture…) and above avarage messy and cluttered house. I felt like it would really hurt him and embarras him if I thold him that these things bothered me. So, to my question: How would you guys feel if someone requested you to take better care of your personal hygiene, have your house less cluttered and dirty and to stop picking your nose and wiping it on your clothes? How would it feel? If you have/have had bad hygiene do you think it was just a lack of knowledge about how to take care of things? What things do you think would help you to change things for the better? And I want to emphasize that I know mental health struggles can cause lack of hygiene and I know it from personal experience, you can take that into account or not. I don’t know if this is a stupid questison but this was a real issue for me and lead to my relationship ending. And he was otherwise so dear to me and we were a good match but we were both quite bad at communicating with each other, somehow it just ended up like that. :( I never could bring myself to tell him directly but I sometimes offered my help to clean (because I like to do it) and it really cheered him up but he never wanted to do that again and it got messy. Thank you for your help! submitted by /u/user8544780
Originally posted by u/user8544780 on r/AskMen