M40’s here, happily married for 15 years with a doting wife and two young boys. We all get along well, are financially comfortable, and generally healthy. The wife and I have high stress jobs and work long hours, but we try to spend quality time with the kids via their hobbies. Despite all this, I struggle to feel like I’m a “good” father and husband. There is always an inner voice that questions whether I am “good enough” and providing enough for the family, whether it be financially, time, energy, etc. I don’t spiral when this happens but it definitely does put me in a low point for a few days. Objectively, I appreciate that I am very fortunate and have a good life so this impostor syndrome feels like a big disconnect from reality. I would love to hear if other men relate to this and what you have done to avoid or get yourself out of this rut. I grew up around financial stress and mostly-absent father which may have contributed to this. Have considered getting professional help but want to check in with others as a start. Thank you in advance. Edit: I am sitting at the mechanic bawling my eyes out reading your responses. Thank you all so much for the small reminders that make a big difference. I will go home to my family learning to appreciate them that much more. submitted by /u/mamataglen
Originally posted by u/mamataglen on r/AskMen
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