I (21F) was in an 8-month long-distance relationship with a guy (24M). We met through a dating app and he lives in a different country, so there was always a big time-zone difference. Despite that, I genuinely loved him and put a lot of effort into making things work. A few months ago, he came to India. I was excited because I thought we would finally meet. Instead, he went on a trip to Goa and completely ghosted me. He disappeared for a month without any explanation. That period was horrible for me. I had my first anxiety attack and struggled emotionally for weeks. Then one day, after a month, he called me crying. He said he needed me. Seeing him like that broke my heart, and I gave him a second chance. Looking back, maybe that was my mistake, but at that moment I couldn’t just walk away. Things seemed okay for a while, but recently he started becoming distant again. He would barely reply to my messages, wouldn’t make time for me, and I constantly felt ignored. I asked for reassurance because honestly, in a long-distance relationship, communication is all we really have. Whenever I brought up my feelings, he would tell me I was “toxic” or “overthinking” and insist that nothing was wrong. Yesterday, after feeling ignored for days, I finally asked him, “Is everything over?” His reply was, “Yes. Now you’re happy?” Last night I sent him a lot of messages trying to understand what happened. I called him, but he didn’t answer. He hasn’t even read my messages. Today I noticed he unfollowed me too. What I don’t understand is this: how is asking for reassurance in a long-distance relationship considered toxic? Was I really asking for too much by wanting communication and clarity? I know giving him a second chance was probably my mistake. But do I really deserve to be treated like I meant nothing? Right now I feel discarded, like I was just an option whenever he needed emotional support. I guess I’m posting here because I need an outside perspective. Was I actually toxic, or was I simply asking for the bare minimum? submitted by /u/Express_Ad8064
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