Background: My father has always had this thing where he views himself to be the head of the whole family and extended family. When I (43m) got engaged he asked: “To who?” My response: “Ummmm… my girlfriend(38F)” there was a pause followed by “Ohhh. Congratulations, I guess.” (Those words have always stuck with me.) A month later we told him the told him the date of October 4th 2026 (This was the end of September ‘25) his response: “Okay, but that’s not going to work with me. I’ll get back to you with a better date….” I didn’t respond, I didn’t know how. He sent me a text saying “December 12th is better, get married then. I’ll tell everyone you’re switching it.” I immediately responded with: “Dad, it’s still October 4th, we’re not changing it. We’re both practicing Buddhists. The date was chosen by the monks, it lines up best with our birthdates and our energy.” He then instantly says “You’re the loser in this family, you just had to get married to HER. (my fiancé is originally from Laos) PLUS a disappointment to this family, if you want to redeem yourself, you need to do what I say.” I told him in not changing it, that’s final. We haven’t really talked since last Christmas when he asked me if I still intended to marry her (I’m not using her name). I told him “Yes” and he just shook his head. Her family views this as a major disgrace and incredibly disrespectful. The family wants to honor my father, but he ignores them. (my mom passed in 2012)I feel like he needs to be there. Since the holidays he has been an absolute cruel human. My fiancé is saying they’ll just honor me as if my both of my parents passed way. My younger brother is coming and he and his wife are SUPER supportive. My two uncles and aunt are both disappointed bigots in my “non American” fiancé. Should I just cut him out of my life and walk away? submitted by /u/Objective-Deal8745
Originally posted by u/Objective-Deal8745 on r/AskMen