My father made plans to meet me and my boyfriend a year ago at his estranged mother’s. (who was recovering from a stroke) My boyfriend and i went there on multiple occasions alone. but this time my dad called me and made the plans. My dad never makes plans to see me or to visit so i was excited. my boyfriend also left work early and its 45 minutes away. At the time we weren’t doing well financially and my dad was aware of it. He texted me in a group chat 4 minutes to the time we were supposed to meet and said “got called out for a job last night still working cant make it this morning” I was very upset. I should have known better. My dad’s an alcoholic. And he did this when I was little he would say hes coming to get me at my mom’s all the time and Just not show up. I had my boyfriend turn around and i texted my dad and said he was rude he should have told me last night and i dont feel like driving out here again for him to cancel on me last minute and to not to make any more plans to meet if u want to see me u know where I live. He called me later that night an goes “im rude??” I said yes he goes “I was working” I said thats not an excuse to not tell me ur canceling until 4 mins to the time of meeting ? u could have told me sooner he goes listen listen to me then he went on a tangent screaming at me when he was done I told him to listen to me. I was going to say “i wanted to see you and i know grandma did too. U know we’re not doing well financially and u had us drive almost all the way there just to cancel that was rude my boyfriend literally called off work for this im disappointed u should have told me sooner” but he said he didnt have to listen to me so I hung up. I wasnt going to do the whole one sided phone call of him screaming at me while I just sit there and listen. My dad then cut my service off which is fine. I have a new number now an he has no way of contacting me and within that year we also moved. So its up to me to make contact again if I plan on doing so. Im just conflicted. Of course id wait until im 12 weeks but I just dont know what to do. If this happened would you even want ur kid reach out again. Also I wish it wasnt on me to reach out considering it was his fault. submitted by /u/Accomplished_User7
Originally posted by u/Accomplished_User7 on r/AskMen
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