I’m a man that is 30 and has never had a girlfriend or any sort of sustained interaction with women besides being a coworker (*With a caveat, explained further in the post). And I’ll also preface the rest of the post by saying I’m Black, a big no no in dating I guess. No I’m not chasing white women. I’m open to all ethnicities. It really does make one question “Am I just uglier than I think?”. Because I do see men that are unattractive in relationships, and the woman often isn’t attractive either (Nothing wrong with that though). I also cannot speak to the quality of the relationship or whatever goes on behind the scenes, but I at the very least go in my head “They at least found something, why can’t I?”. People make it seem as if getting a relationship is as easy as going outside and talking to people, and it kind of just isn’t? It really feels like a psyop. I’m in shape, well groomed, and my only real standard is that I want a woman that is also in shape, but I literally haven’t found a single woman interested in me in the 10+ years I’ve been out and about. At this point, the thought of it just seems extremely weird. Whenever I see couples, it’s like looking at a pair of aliens. The social dynamics always seem odd and performative. I am not a virgin, but it’s only because I’ve used paid avenues. And no, there’s nothing about my mindset that is the issue (Not misogynistic). People do describe me as nice, my coworkers describe me as professional, but nada. I feel like an alien among humans to be honest. submitted by /u/cantthinkofaname1010
Originally posted by u/cantthinkofaname1010 on r/AskMen