Hey guys, I’m a late 90s kid, and like way too many of us, a huge chunk of my sex education basically came from porn. Looking back, I deeply regret it, and I’m reaching out because I’m genuinely struggling with the aftermath of it today. Now that I’m older and have had a few different relationships, I’ve obviously realized that real life isn’t a porn set. But here’s the problem: my brain’s wiring for sexual arousal is still stuck in that porn format. In my relationships, I’ve found myself getting bored sexually super quickly. It got to a point where I’d honestly sometimes prefer to just masturbate to a video rather than have actual sex, purely because real sex felt “too boring” or not “porn-like” enough. The paradox is that I absolutely do not want the girl I’m with to act like a porn star. I want genuine intimacy. But at the same time, I feel frustrated because I want to feel that intense rush of excitement, and a normal, healthy session just doesn’t trigger it for me. I’m convinced I’m not the only one here dealing with this. Our brains were literally conditioned from a young age to only respond to extreme stimulation, so when we’re in a normal, vanilla situation, the brain just goes blank. I literally have to force myself to imagine weird, extreme scenarios in my head just to stay hard or get excited. If I could go back in time, I would honestly never touch porn. It’s completely polluting my love life. So my question to you guys is: How the hell do you re-program your brain? Has anyone successfully broken out of this cycle and managed to find normal, real-life intimacy deeply exciting again? What actually workshop? submitted by /u/AeternaMassalia1899
Originally posted by u/AeternaMassalia1899 on r/AskMen