So, I’m the background person. Invited to weddings or birthdays, but I never had a partner or held hands. It’s a bit weird sometimes. Younger I became part of the dumb internet crowd, which felt nice at first because I felt less alone and understood. But that’s a crutch that becomes a dead weight soon enough, and ends up doing more harm than good. And I didn’t like blaming all my problems on society while murdering studies. I left these groups, which made me a lot less angry. Still, I was alone, and years of attempts haven’t changed that. Between butting my head against a brick wall and being permanently pissed at the wall, I elected to simply ignore the wall and walk elsewhere. Aka, I focused on getting over my desire to be with someone. I sank into hobbies, meditation, work, all the stuff to keep myself busy. I became a volunteer firefighter, switched career to something that felt useful for people as a whole, began cooking at a soup kitchen, did a heap of sports and other hobbies. There at least I felt I was successful at stuff and moving forward. Eventually, seeing other people getting together stopped being bothersome and I hardly thought about it. Mid thirties now. Life isn’t perfect, but I’m content with where I am. I got a clean place, a big kitchen, freedom to do whatever I feel like doing. Meeting up with friends has become uncommon, as they expand their families they have less time for folks like me with drastically different lives. It’s generally okay, except… I’ve been struggling lately, as if I was lacking direction or something. Career change and hobbies took a lot of my brain power and time, but since it has settled I feel like there’s a hole and I’m restless. Still got hobbies and plenty of stuff to do, but it’s become harder to focus. My brain gets sidetracked easily, and to top it off my libido, that which is supposed to go down with age, seems to go up drastically which is bothersome to no end. I wish nothing but to get back to that moment when my brain could stay focused on a task at hand and not get sidetracked. So, for the people who underwent similar struggles, how did you find your peace of mind again? Did you try a meditation school? Aimed for a brand new path in life? Focused inwards? Outwards? I just need some ideas there. Input more than welcome, all the best folks. submitted by /u/Amdusiasparagus
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