Im 31 years old. I have a fiance and a 9 year old daughter. I have a career. Sometimes life is hard. I think it is for most of us. Bills pile up. Shits getting more expensive. Alot is expected from me. I get frustrated and upset sometimes. I might have some mild depression. Im saying this because Im wondering if some mild depression has anything to do with how Im feeling. I have no desire to make new friends or maintain my current friendships. Im very lucky to have a few really strong friendships with people who care about me and I care about them. 2 of these friendships being over a decade old. Dudes I grew up with. I love them to death. And I enjoy calling them, checking up on them. Sharing pictures with them of my life and whats going on. But I have no desire to put in a whole lot of effort to spend time with them in person. I do currently live in a different state than my friends. They are about a 6 hour drive away from me. But as Im thinking about and deciding where I want to settle down and plant my roots, Im not taking my friends into consideration at all. I dont mind having a long distance friendship with them. I look forward to visiting my home town and them once or twice a year and spending time with them. But Im not planning my life around being close enough to them to see them and spend time with them regularly. Im perfectly content with living away from them. I also have no desire to really make new friends where I live. I enjoy cooking and BBQing. My family and I cook out and have BBQs all the time. I enjoy target shooting and offroading. I enjoy going to car shows and races. But I have no desire to meet new friends to do those things with. And I dont have a desire to do those things regularly with my current buddies. Like I said. I look forward to visiting them a couple times a year and we’ll definitely do cookouts and go shooting and offroading and whatever else. And I enjoy that. But mostly I just want to do those things with my fiance and daughter. I want to live a chill, slow paced life. I work hard during the week. And I enjoy having my weekends to myself with my little family. I love my friends. I have no desire to make new ones. Im a super social person. Im very friendly. Its easy for me to talk to people and make new friends. Im super outgoing. I have no issues meeting new people, talking to people and being a nice friendly guy. I just have no desire to be best friends with anyone new. I dont want to invite people over and entertain them. Is this normal? submitted by /u/-desertdweller
Originally posted by u/-desertdweller on r/AskMen
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