Let me preface this by saying I don’t have much dating experience. I went on my first date ever this year at 28, so I’m still learning how all of this works and would really appreciate some perspective from the men’s side. I matched with a guy (33) on a dating app about a month ago. We had good banter right away, and he asked me out pretty quickly. Our first date was dinner and it went really well. Since then we’ve gone on two more dates (a museum + dinner and a beach day) and each one has honestly been really great. It just feels comfortable. He’s initiated, planned, and paid for every date so far. Between dates we’ve texted every day—not constantly, but enough that we’re consistently checking in, joking around, and talking about our days. We live a little over an hour apart and both work full-time, so weekends are realistically the only time we can see each other. I took the initiative to ask to meet up for a 4th date and we are seeing each other this weekend. The thing is, I can already feel myself getting attached, and I’m actively trying to remind myself to slow down because it’s only been a month. Since I don’t have previous dating experience to compare this to, I’m not sure what’s “normal.” So I have a few questions for the guys here:
- At about the one-month mark, assuming you’re genuinely interested in someone, what are you typically thinking?
- Does planning all the dates and texting daily generally indicate you’re intentionally pursuing someone, or is that just how some men date everyone in the beginning?
- When do you usually start feeling emotionally invested?
- Is there anything you wish women knew about this stage of dating? I’m trying to enjoy getting to know him without getting ahead of myself, so I’d love to hear how you approach this stage. submitted by /u/IntentionOpposite533
Originally posted by u/IntentionOpposite533 on r/AskMen