Sober for 13 years and I’ve led a number of sobriety support groups. I so wish I could tell you something you could do that will stop the drinking.

But, in my experience, the only way a person can overcome their demons is to do it for themselves. Your dad may really want to do what he can to stop for you or someone else he loves, but that requires a level of emotional and psychological effort that it is impossible to sustain.

Overcoming an addiction wears you down. It just takes one bad thing to happen in a weak moment when you are all out of willpower to fall back into the same old patterns.

If it’s safe, you should definitely tell him how you feel about his drinking and the way his drinking affects you. Whether that triggers him to change or not, that is something you need to say and he needs to hear.

When he is ready, a support group can be extremely helpful. A small thing you could do would be to put a list together of local places that have that kind of thing.

I’m sorry you are going through this. The most important thing for you to do is to take care of yourself. Hang in there!