Hi, this may be a weird question but here we go. I am overly competitive and I feel like it’s starting to affect my life and I’m just not sure how to be more chill. I grew up as an immigrant and from a young age, my parents instilled in me that I’d always “have to be better than Americans” to afforded the same opportunities simply because I’m foreign. I really took that advice as a kid and really ran with it. Made really good grades, went to good schools, and now I have a great career. To put it in perspective (not to brag), I’m in my early 30s and our household income is almost 7 figures. I live very comfortably and by all metrics, I should be satisfied but I still have that itch to just keep going and I don’t know how to turn it off. I’m almost finding ways to do more cases and keep going when I should be happy. And while this has lead to a very successful career, it has bled over to my personal life too. I basically find myself spending time trying to optimize shit that doesn’t matter. For example, I can’t enjoy video games without literally diving down to every mechanic and trying to min/max everything. This has lead to problems with my wife (she’s a casual gamer and now things I try hard). Whenever i try to start a new hobby (bouldering, MMA, etc) I always spend way too much time on it to the point where my body is breaking down from overtraining. I even obsessively respond to Reddit comments if someone tries to argue/debate with me because I have to feel like I “won”. Basically I’m the definition of someone who is hyper competitive and needs to “touch grass” and I’m scared of burning out, but I just don’t know how to do things casually or for fun. Any tips? submitted by /u/NapkinZhangy
Originally posted by u/NapkinZhangy on r/AskMen
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