First up, I’m aware that some elements of this post might be frustrating and I recognise that I am not in the worse spot in the world relatively speaking. But we each have our demons and our problems and this is part of mine. I am not trying to troll. So my problem is this, I’ve been working in Switzerland for nearly 5 years now and it’s been okay but honestly I have found it far harder to integrate than I thought. I can speak B1/B2 German and I’ve tried different clubs, tried new hobbies but I’ve just found myself making acquaintances and not friends. And a few people I got to know better have ended up leaving. And it’s becoming a really big worry for me now because I’m 35 years old and I don’t want to end up at 40 in the same position. I broke up with my girlfriend recently and that didn’t exactly help. So that is the background. The dilemma is this. I work in Zurich for a relatively large company which is full of old people so probably hasn’t been the best for making friends there either. I’ve worked there since I moved here. I earn 180k, hours are long but tolerable. There are not many jobs in this field and I have not really been looking. I was recently introduced to a company in Zug via a mutual acquaintance and interviewed with them. There is a large salary jump (250k + strong performance bonus) but the expectation is that I would move to Zug, seems like a nice organisation the perks are exceptional, but very conservative wants 5 days in the office hence their expectation of moving. They were quite open about this. Again the office seems to be fairly old people. I guess the benefits of Zug are the low tax, it is pretty etc. But I’m really worried that if I found it hard in Zurich to maintain any semblance of a social life and trying to move that part forward that I might go from hard mode to impossible mode in Zug. Does anyone have any thoughts on this? Again I recognise it’s not the worse position of life to be in but I feel that I am almost becoming depressed but how rote my life is becoming and I know such things are self fulfilling cycles. I already feel less confident in myself than when I moved here. I have honestly considered moving somewhere else but the places which I think might be more “sociable” are where I will get paid absolutely nothing. Got to make a decision today after having been given the weekend to think about it. Absolutely split. submitted by /u/Scrotumville
Originally posted by u/Scrotumville on r/Switzerland