We all have flaws, can’t have perfection. Would looks/sex appeal be a deal breaker if you basically had most everything else right in the relationship? Let’s say you’re looking for a committed long term relationship in midlife with a mature but playful woman. Neither wants kids, that phase has past & you either already have grown kids or no kids. Your life stage is just enjoying life (working & saving for retirement, hobbies, travel, spending time with friends & family & SO). You want a partner who is loyal, intelligent, passionate, empathetic, kind, hard-working, open & communicative, authentic, responsible, no vices, problem-solver & team- player. The kind of partner who offers emotional intimacy and affection, not just perfunctory living in a parallel life. You of course can meet most of those qualities yourself. It would be a WE relationship, not an I or me relationship. It brings peace & stability & a little of good clean fun - above average quality of life as far as happiness & contentment. But the biggest drawback is while she is not totally unattractive, she is overweight and plain looking. Her personality has spark though. Is the physical attraction thing a deal breaker? Would you rather find a partner who had the looks right but flaws in other areas? submitted by /u/Character_Light_5942
Originally posted by u/Character_Light_5942 on r/AskMen