I hate having to ask this but the main men in my life are my dad and brothers and I don’t wanna ask them for advice on this topic! I recently started dating this AMAZING guy. But he A. Has anxiety about how women perceive him and B, for a multitude of reasons, is not only a virgin but hasn’t even kissed anyone since his high school girlfriend 10 years ago. He and I recently had our first kiss and it was absolutely awful. It was like kissing a dead body, I was doing all of it and he was just letting me kiss his lips without moving his own at all. But he was very enthusiastic about it and has kissed me many more times since then. I promise it isn’t an issue of lack of consent or interest. I think he doesn’t see any issue with how he does it. But I do. And then recently we were “making out” (if you can even call it that) again while cuddling and he was humping on me and it was also genuinely awful. He seems to have no idea what he’s doing when interacting with me. Which, is fair because he’s never had the chance to learn. But nonetheless. I’m concerned for down the road when we get more physically intimate, he will have absolutely no idea what he’s doing and in my opinion it will be more hurtful for him to hear criticism that he’s bad in bed rather than criticism about just his kissing. He also had no sex ed in school and never even learned female anatomy. It doesn’t help that he’s very anxious about how women perceive him. Once I made a joke about his cologne being too strong and he asked multiple questions like “is it always too strong? But you at least like the scent, right? Are you saying that because I actually smell like sweat?” So I worry that any commentary about his physical performance would lead to even more questions and overthinking. I really do want a future with him. But I cannot have one with someone where there’s this much physical disconnect. How do I approach this topic? And are there any books or content creators or something who you would recommend as good resources I could direct him towards? submitted by /u/Life-Elk-2495
Originally posted by u/Life-Elk-2495 on r/AskMen