Hey everyone, I (25M) am in a 5-month relationship with my girlfriend (22F). I’m currently doing research / planning a PhD in Europe, and she is a French teacher starting her career. We live together in France. We had an argument because she recently applied to multiple jobs in different places, including Uzbekistan. She told me she is just applying broadly and will go wherever she gets accepted. The issue is that I felt a bit shocked because I assumed that in a serious relationship, we would at least consider whether a move is realistic for both of us before applying to very distant countries. I’m not trying to control her career, but I also don’t want to be in a relationship where big life decisions are made completely independently. She says she doesn’t want to miss interesting opportunities. Before this, everything was actually going really well between us. She was treating me well, and the relationship felt stable and positive, which is part of why this situation confused me so much. Right now I honestly don’t know what to do, and I can’t really picture the future of the relationship anymore after this argument. I’m confused about whether I’m overreacting or whether this is actually a compatibility issue. I also don’t want to become controlling or “clingy,” but I also don’t want to ignore something important. How would you interpret this situation? Is it normal early in a relationship for partners to apply for jobs abroad without considering the relationship first, or does this indicate different life priorities? Btw, she is French, and I come from a completely different cultural background, so I’m wondering if part of this difference stems from differing expectations around relationships, independence, and career decisions. submitted by /u/Rabii_10
Originally posted by u/Rabii_10 on r/AskMen