Hi all, I come humbly seeking advice from anyone who can offer it. As some background - I am 27 yo male living at home with my parents - mainly working from home. I am mostly enjoying my life and grateful. I like my job in IT, have a great girlfriend who I plan to move out with soon, and have good friends and hobbies. For reasons likely both historic & genetic, depression and anxiety run quite deep in my family. As a result we are all quite neurotic, but our family is close and loving. I work from home, and have lived at home for the past year or so after moving back in. I have had a chance to be closer to both parents and naturally observe them closer. Over the past few years, my father has increasingly grown more dissatisfied at work. He is very smart and a talented software developer. He has made quite a high salary over the later portion of his career now and is approaching retirement in a few years. My mom makes a lot less, but together they have been able to afford quite a comfortable upper middle class life for my sister and I. At the same time, they are both immigrants, not too financially savvy by default, and do not have so much saved that my dad can retire today and have us live at the same level. As I mentioned he has grown more dissatisfied and I believe has not adapted well to new working culture in America, which has led to not great relationships with his managers. This has culminated in him being fired a few months ago for performance - the first time in his career this has happened. When speaking to me about his, he alluded that it felt quite humiliating, but he didn’t seem devastated and was looking to use the free time to find a job in less demanding field to finish off his working years in. It’s been a few months and while nothing feels like a ‘disaster’ per se, I have noticed that he is not spending a ton of time networking, talking to coach, applying to jobs etc. and is spending more time watching tv (8+ hrs a day) ranging from politics, soap operas, and sometimes even sexually explicit content on YouTube… not in front of us but when I go on YouTube I see it in his search history. Seeing him like this is sad for me, and I do not know how best to support him, if I should call him out for his bad habits etc. Also I don’t know if it’s more of a ‘you live under his roof, he’s done enough…give him a break’ situation… idk Mostly I just hate when he watches politics and soap operas for hours, especially when I find he has been watching sexually explicit content… it feels like unhealthy cope habits. I might sound obnoxious but it makes me lose respect and admiration for him (even if it’s unwilling… just subconsciously I feel this way). Hoping someone can give me some perspective, if Im being too hard on him with my thoughts, or if there is a legitimate way I can support him. I appreciate any of your reading and advice. Thank you in advance and bless. submitted by /u/New_Perception_7917
Originally posted by u/New_Perception_7917 on r/AskMen
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