Personally, I wouldn’t cheat because it goes against my values and integrity. But I’m curious what other people think. Do you have friends who cheat on their partners, and does it affect how you see them? It never really bothered me before because I always thought, “That’s their relationship, not mine.” But I recently had a close friend betray me, and it made me notice something. The friends I have who don’t cheat were much more objective about the situation. They were quick to say he was clearly in the wrong. The friends who do cheat seemed more willing to excuse or downplay what happened. Also the friend who betrayed me also cheats on his spouse. I’ve already decided I’m no longer going to be friends with the guy who betrayed me. But now it’s made me question my other friendships too. If someone is comfortable betraying their partner, should I also question whether they’d betray me? And when something serious happens, can I trust them to tell me what’s actually right and wrong, or are they more likely to justify bad behavior because they do similar things themselves? Am I overthinking this, or have any of you noticed something similar? Are any of you friends with other men who cheat, and things seem to be okay between y’all? submitted by /u/LowkeyCancer
Originally posted by u/LowkeyCancer on r/AskMen