For me, it was learning that I was an idiot. Lemme explain. I’m pretty decently intelligent. Despite this, I lack motivation, consistency, drive, and overall attention to detail. I’m diagnosed PTSD and TBI. Makes things a little difficult at times. Which also means that I’m a bit of a fuck up. This post is me learning to cope with that. My partner is great at this however. She cares about the world, she’s very focused on seemingly useless things, she pays attention to the details even if it doesn’t make her life better. She doesn’t always understand but she is very good at sticking at something until she understands. I can understand things quickly but I just don’t have the motivation or drive or even care to want to learn or keep at something. Especially when this new thing doesn’t help me with my life in any way. So I’m not an idiot just intellectually but also the fact that I’m kinda lazy and impatient when it comes to learning. Gives me a low self esteem most times. The silver lining is the fact that my partner makes my life easier by letting me be an idiot. It’s nice. She doesn’t mind that I don’t have a nice good paying job, a really good degree, a ton of money saved, or that I’m very worldly. She values my helpful behavior. She likes that I’m a bit of a worker bee. I drive her wherever she wants to go. I make sure to always help clean up after myself and even after her. I am kind and respectful to her. I always wash the dishes or take out the trash. I make sure I make her laugh with stupid jokes. I am also working towards getting a career job and making 4x what I make now. So it’s not like she’s carrying the brunt of life all on her own. She’s patient with me and just lets me be an idiot and therefore lets me start to heal from all the things that I either can’t be or simply haven’t become. I’m thankful to her for letting me be an idiot and then allowing my strengths to shine through in other ways. Now I don’t focus on the fact that I’m an idiot, I get to focus on all the other things that I’m able to be for her rather than always thinking that I’m smarter than I actually am simply to cope with the fact that I am in fact. An idiot. This single thing has helped to change my life and made life incredibly less stressful. What was one thing in your relationship that really helped to change your life for the better? submitted by /u/SirCicSensation
Originally posted by u/SirCicSensation on r/AskMen