I’m 24M and I feel severely behind in setting boundaries. I kinda let my cousins walk all over me and nitpick whatever I do, and I never say anything back. It’s like one second they’re cool, and the other second i’m being nitpicked for how I pour soda or tie my shoes etc. I just feel too sensitive to say anything back, and I feel like my voice will crack or i’ll stumble over my words if I express how I really feel. People would often just say it’s family banter but I feel like it’s because they deep down don’t like me or respect me as a person because i’m too sensitive to set boundaries. Deep down I feel like losing it when they nitpick me and make me feel small but I contain it because I can’t actually physically get myself to express myself authentically. It sucks man, i’m such a weak person. I also have mild autism so i’m not sure if that plays a role. I have a lot of build of resentment from moments like this. I carry a lot of low self esteem and issues trusting myself due to my neurodivergence and doing poorly in school growing up. I also come from a broken family. I feel like my cousins around my age and slightly younger have already have learned to set boundaries. They seem so much more confident than me. I feel severely behind compared to most people my age with setting boundaries and it stings thinking about it. I’m trying my best man. People often say that being a narcissist is a negative trait, but I’m growing a strong desire to become one because of moments like this. I would rather be an entitled guy who is blunt and rude to others rather than the trashy nice guy I am now. Can anyone relate to me or understand why I am this way and whether i’m behind for my age? What do y’all suggest I do? My family doesn’t respect me and they view me as a joke. submitted by /u/StrikingLock2448
Originally posted by u/StrikingLock2448 on r/AskMen
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