I (34F) am 1 month postpartum. Things are going great with the baby and with our marriage. We are sleep deprived for sure but really more in love than ever. My problem is that I absolutely hate my body now. I know I can get it back, but it will take a lot of time and I hate seeing myself. I can’t imagine my husband (35M) being attracted to me this way, compared to how I was before. I was toned, great butt, perfectly flat stomach, and just so athletic and physically capable. By the time I delivered I had gained 65lbs (not sure where I’m at now), I have stretch marks on my hips/thighs, and on my boobs since my milk came in. Obviously my stomach is no longer flat and I have no abs, it’s big and soft and I hate it. The end of pregnancy was physically hard and painful, with sciatica and SI joint pain constantly. Now I still limp and waddle around, with stiffness and pain in my feet and knees. With the 6 week mark approaching, and likely the go ahead for intercourse, I feel even more self conscious. My body will be flopping and jiggling around in ways it never has before, and I just don’t see how he could actually like my body at this point. I know what he finds attractive and this is not it. ( he’s telling me I’m beautiful and all of that, but I just feel like he has to say that, he’s not an idiot, he’s not going to say gee honey, you look pretty gross!) submitted by /u/ThrowRaoofda
Originally posted by u/ThrowRaoofda on r/AskMen
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